Coffeeholic's Hour

Today, I am motivated to restructure my life. No matter how hectic my job is, I shouldn't use it as excuse to not live a life like what others could. Life should be more than just corporate ladder and money. So this is what I'm going to do: 1) Lay out the financial status Figure out the fixed commitment, variable expenses, debt level, saving level. I do believe part of restructuring involved monetary solution to either pay off debt, save enough, and invest in new hobby. First step of liberation in making choice is when you're financially stable. 2) Set life planner To seek balance between life and work, set a planner for all the major events. In work, jot down the appointments, deadlines and to-do lists. It's more tricky in life events. Firstly, me-time; followed by family, then social circles. Me-time refers to exercise, hobby, and the beloved. Family is more to lunch or dinner. Social circles are classified to personal gathering and work socialising. When the maj...

Watch your thoughts for they become your actions; Watch your action for they become your habits; Watch your habits for they become your character; Watch your character for they become your destiny. We may not be able to predict the future, but we can prepare for it. Excerpted from Harvey Mackay column

Some wise words I happened to come across when visiting a clinic in town: Never blame anyone in life Good people give you happiness Bad people give you experiences Worst people give you lesson Best people give you memories

We have been walking through sunny and rainy days for almost 18 months since last June. Few months before we met each other, I was pretty skeptical about love and relationship because love became luxurious for people who are lacking of career and financial grounds. Until we met, until we started seeing each other, until we acknowledged each other, we thought it could be fun to cross path and walk on the journey without playing hard and trying on tricks and mind games. Love was a breeze the like of those days when a boy held a girl's hand, looked in her eyes and asked a simple question "I like you. Will you be my girlfriend?". Shy yet very sincere and affirmed about his confession. Girl just nodded without suggesting a probation or questioning his sincerity. Love is, as if, the easiest thing to do. We are just like any couple you would see on the streets, except the extraordinary body heights. People around us love seeing us together. He is a guy grown up under the influ...

爱情曾经也是一种很美，很令人有憧憬的感动。看着你们的照片，我联想到自己的任性，不过并没有后悔过要过着单身的生活。如果谈情只是一种生活上的调剂品，那么爱情也可以是生活上的附属品。原来我一直把爱情当作负担，原来我没有真正爱过，原来我对爱情是零认知，原来我只习惯一个人生活。

Happiness is when you virtually screamed your stress over the phone, telling your beau your plan tonight is drinking beer and watching movie; he then places your beers in the fridge and wishes you to enjoy yourself before he goes off to gym. Now that's the telepathy between us. And that beer tastes sweeter than ever :) Found the treasure! at Renoma Gallery

It is pointless to change the way he loves you to suit the preference of you like being loved. When terrible things happen and he stays quiet, he is contemplating of options to save you from the mess. His silly smile is the implication of 'guilty as charged' - and it is too cute to be punished. He has become quiet and you think he begins to ignore you - in fact, he just enjoys the moment of silence and he hopes you enjoy it too. Observe his focus and you will know if he is listening. Rule of 'boys will always be boys' and he needs his space and personal time for his childhood toys, collection, hobbies and interest.   Time-out makes your relationship stronger. He loves the situation of his friends like you and you mingle well in the crowd. Maturity of a relationship - he believes his instinct rather than the calendar. A man's trust resembles a woman's virginity - you can never mend these broken ones.